Posted by azngeek at December 6th, 2007

Are you an enabler? Don’t know? Unsure? Let me help you to see whether you are one. And if you aren’t. First let me tell you what an enabler is then i suppose. An enabler is a person who well to stupidly put it: Enables others.  Duhhhhhh. Okay fine. Lets really talk about what an enabler does. An enabler capacitates, facilitates, and just gives some form of assurance to another whether in the negative or positive sense.

Some people need negative enablers. Others. Need positive ones. A nudge in the right direction.

Lets talk about the positive type first. The positive type, would usually fall under the kind hearted, gullible, still innocent-ish, optimistic annoying arses. They believe in magic, little fairies, ponies, and little unicorns. And believe that anything can happen if they try hard enough or want something enough. And will tell you so. They’ll tell you that YOU should go for the girl next door that you’ve been head over heels with for as long as you can remember, they will tell you that you WILL be able to afford that nice Euro car the next year, and they will tell you that you will be able to reach the peek of that skiing slope and completely nail it without having too many ungraceful face imprints into the cold hard compressed snow.

And then you have the negative types. Who tell you. No. You can’t do that and that. You lack the ability. You aren’t good enough. And so on and so forth. Maybe because they understand that you yourself would try harder if you are told no. Or they could be extreme realist. Or the alternative to that is that they could be just downright mean spirited arses.

Am I an enabler? Well. I’ve been doing part time tutoring for a while now. And I guess I’ve developed some fairly decent enabling skills. I play on both sides of the fence. Neither nor just a pure positive hippy, or the negative black faced bastard that everyone would love to freeze, place on a popsicle stick, and watch them melt into nothingness (Don’t ask me where I get these weird images from, they just come to me. Like a dream)

My end word is. I’d like to be your enabler. If you so need one. And I’ll be whatever kind of enabler you might need. Just talk to me. Talk to people. Let them know about your current state of mind, of your wants, your needs, your likes, even your dislikes. Makes the world a better place. Lets all be enablers.

PS: I know that if you always head towards the negative enabling methods, you’ll be shunned by society and they will eat your first newborn child.

Azngeek